Neuro-Linguistic Programming recognizes that all behaviors occur in patterns and are rooted in the subconscious mind. Another tenet of NLP is that we are always communicating. The person you communicate with more then anyone else is YOU! And the single most important factor that affects the way we think and feel is the deep structure of that “internal dialogue” of communication of you to you. With this information, a qualified NLP practitioner can help his students to influence behavioral patterns through the use of specific language changes and other types of communication changes (words only account for 7% of our ability to communicate) to enable a person to “recode” information that is stored in their subconscious. This results in new and better patterns of behavior. This also radically affects how people see and feel about themselves in a very positive and healthy way. Because these people now value themselves at a much higher level, they often go on to make significantly more money, many get married or get into healthy fulfilling relationships and go on to lead rich, fulfilled lives. Neuro-Linguistic Programming often incorporates hypnosis and self-hypnosis to help achieve the change (or “programming”) that the client wants to change. I have personally seen hundreds of people stop doing depression and or anxiety with lasting results after only a few sessions. The results you can expect with a good NLP practitioner are nothing short of amazing.
Another word for hypnosis is trance. Being in trance is a very natural state. We go in and out of trance multiple times everyday. Most people never even notice it. But did you ever have a time when you were driving and you missed your exit? Or worse yet, you drive to your destination, turn off the ignition, and not remember driving there? Believe it or not, that is a very common experience.
All new learning happens in some state of trance. If you watch someone’s eyes as you’re speaking to them, their eyes will move in different directions. They may look up, side to side or look down. That is know as eye accessing cues and is indicative of trance state that last only seconds in most cases.
There are deeper, more prolonged states, and deeper learning happens in these states. When people go into these states, I will often guide the conversation helping them to make new distinctions by disassociating them from the experience. In other words, I will ask them to close their eyes and make a picture or movie of themselves experiencing their “stuck state”. This allows for some space between the person and the experience. This new perspective often is enough for the person to find a new resourceful way of handling the challenges of their life. Often as the open their eyes, they tell me,”I didn’t think I was that deep.”( in trance) The reason they say that is because they were completely aware of outside noises such as a phone ringing, sounds from outside, music in the background etc.
Hypnosis is a very powerful tool that is often misunderstood and subsequently feared. But going into a light guided trance is a powerful way to move yourself rapidly forward in life. I have personally seen multiple people who had suffered from anxiety, many for years, let go of it in a single session.
There are many people out there today calling themselves, “Life Coach”. Most coaches are good at helping their clients set goals and use accountability methods in their effort to move their clients forward. These coaches have open ended relationships with their clients who go back to them month after month(continuing to pay the coach)
Other coaches are very good and help their clients to happiness and fulfillment that has eluded them for years. And they do it in a very short period of time. And sadly, I have personally met more than a few people who have no formal training and really have no business calling themselves “Life Coach”, but they still do.
How do you know which Life Coach is right for you? First off, life coaching should empower their client to be able to coach themselves. Coaching should be finite. It should have a beginning, middle and end. At the end of your program, you should be self sufficient, able to deal with your life’s challenges and not dependent on a coach for the rest of your life. That’s not to say that you won’t ever need help. We all do from time to time. Then you can just check in with your coach for a “tune up”.
Most life coaches will offer you a complimentary life coaching session to allow you to see if he or she is a good fit for you. And he/she should not take it personally if you do not choose them. In fact, a really good coach should be happy to refer you to someone else who might be more suited to help you solve your particular challenges.
How do you know if a Life Coach is REALLY qualified to help you? What qualifications should I look for in a life coach?”, you ask? At a minimum, your coach should be certified. But with so many certifications available (many online), how do you know which is worthwhile and which is not? Simple, ask your potential life coach about his or her qualifications. If he or she is truly competent, then he or she should be happy to discuss their qualifications with you!
The title of this article is “Why an NLP Life Coach?” So allow me to answer that now. NLP stands for Neuro Linguistic Programming. NLP is an ever evolving body of work co-founded by Richard Bandler and John Grinder. They began to study a select group of therapists, who in the 1970’s, were producing extraordinary results for their patients. Since the 1970’s, millions of people have used Neuro-Linguistic Programming to change their lives.
With this knowledge, they have improved their communications, increased their sales, furthered their careers, developed leadership skills, changed limiting beliefs, and created deeper, more fulfilled lives. Simply put, NLP is the study and practice of excellence.
Jack Canfield, author of “Chicken Soup for the Soul” says, “NLP is a powerful system of thinking that can accelerate the achievement of your personal and professional goals.”
I personally was gifted by an NLP practicing life coach that dramatically transformed my life in a very short period of time. For that I will be forever grateful. And now as a certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming, and a certified Life Coach, I am able to pay that gift forward.
If it is transformation you are looking for, an NLP practitioner is who you should choose
Your sub-conscious or non-conscious mind works approximately 400 to 2,000 times faster then your conscious mind. Think about that for a moment. If your subconscious mind works that much faster than your conscious mind, would it not be beneficial to direct it? Here’s a clue: If you do not direct it your subconscious mind will direct you.
There is a real part of your brain known as the Reticular Activating System. Your RAS is constantly searching for what to focus on. With all the modern technology, we have more access to news than ever before. Since most of the news reported today is negative, It can affect your RAS and what it habitually focuses on. If you do not consciously direct your Reticular Activating system, it will direct you.
Our conscious minds are capable of focusing on seven things at once, plus or minus two.
And right at this very moment, there are at least two billion bits of sensory data coming at you! Out of that two billion the most you can process at your absolute best is 134 bits per second. And that is at your absolute best. But few of us are at our absolute best all the time. In reality the level we operate at is between 7 to 9 bits per second. 7 to 9 out of 2,000,000! So that means is our perception of reality is really, really subjective.
So what happens to the other 1,999,991 bits per second? We subconsciously filter deleting, distorting and generalizing.
Think about this: are news broadcasts generally focused on good news or bad? And with so many different sources of information these days between smart phones, tablets, video and audio, we can barely get away from it! So if your RAS is focusing on 7 to 9 bits of data that it is picking up unconsciously the odds are good that you are unwittingly training your non-conscious mind to focus on negativity. The result of that at a minimum is you fell less than enthusiastic about life and the world and many people end up feeling depressed and anxious. In my opinion, that is no way to go through life.
Here is an example of how your brain works. Answer the following questions; what kind of car did you drive before the car you have now? Did you used to see similar cars on the road when you were driving it? What kind of car do you drive now? Don’t you see that car on the road when you are driving now? That is you RAS in action.
Here is the rest of the story. Your subconscious not only works at lightning speed, but it is also ten billion times more powerful then your conscious mind. Your conscious mind only plays a small part in your life to create happiness joy and success for you. Finding ways to train and direct your subconscious mind will often create amazing breakthroughs for you in all areas of your life, even in areas where you have believed yourself stuck for years.
Here are a few simple ways to train your RAS;
- Begin each day with a list of things/people for which you feel grateful.
- Look for the good in everyone in your life (esp. the ones that drive you crazy)
- Practice unconditional love (if that’s too much of a stretch, practice compassion)
- Set meaningful goals. (I suggest goals that allow you to contribute to the greater good of society)
- Focus on what is right in your life
- Become curious. The more beliefs and presuppositions we question, the more we grow. Your brain loves growth and so you will naturally become even more curios.
- Find a qualified Nuero Linguistic Programming Practitioner to coach you.
Remember, by choosing to direct your focus, you can have a better more fulfilling life. The choice is always your.
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