If your self-esteem is low, many things in your life will suffer. It can be difficult to maintain good relationships or to enjoy successes at work when you have lower self-esteem. The life coach at Premier NLP Life Coaching has seen many clients whose lives have suffered because of a lack of self-esteem. We are able to help you to improve your feelings of self-worth so that you can put yourself on the path to achieving more positive outcomes in your life. Here are seven ways that you can work to improve the way in which you feel about yourself.
Accept that you are loveable despite your imperfections
No one is perfect. If you expect yourself to be perfect, you can be devastated when you encounter a setback or make a mistake. Instead, you should recognize that you are still a loveable person despite the imperfections that you have.
You can admit to yourself that you are imperfect. Be willing and able to apologize to others for the mistakes that you make when you make them.
Identify your strengths and weaknesses
Many people with low self-esteem constantly compare themselves to other people. You might see someone who has something that you don’t or who you believe is more attractive, for example. When you focus on these types of comparisons, you can start to feel worthless.
Instead, identify your own innate strengths and weaknesses. This can help you to build on your strengths while you work to minimize your weaker areas. Remember that everyone, including other people who you might feel inclined to compare yourself to, has innate strengths and weaknesses just like you do.
Make peace with your existence
Think about what you believe at your core. Your core beliefs help to determine how you think, act and feel. It might help you to remind yourself that you have a right to be here and that you belong. You have a purpose for your life.
Release past shame
Everyone has something in the past about which they are ashamed. You might also be carrying someone else’s shame. You can let go of old shame in several ways, including the following:
- Therapy to reduce shame
- Hypnosis to allow you to give up the shame of others
- Making amends to those people who you have harmed
- Choosing to live your life in a different way if you are unable to make amends
- Practicing your spirituality
If you fall short of your goals, it can cause a hit to your self-esteem. If you only see events in your life in terms of failing or winning, then you are likely to feel like you have failed. Instead of viewing a setback as a failure, view it as feedback.
Think about what you can learn from the experience. You can then refine your approach and try again.
In some cases, failure is not something that is personal to you. It might simply be about something else. For example, if you didn’t get a job that you wanted, it is possible that the person who interviewed you may have decided to give the position to a friend.
Be willing to set boundaries and to say no
Many people struggle with setting boundaries and saying no. When they say yes, they might instead be telling themselves no. While it is important to be charitable to others, it is also important to set boundaries and to seek balance. You need to make certain that you take care of yourself before you try to help others. When you give, make certain that you do so out of love instead of depriving yourself.
Practicing self-care is a way for you to tell yourself that you love the person who you are. Self-care can include simple things like maintaining good hygiene, taking breaks and time off from work, getting enough sleep, and eating healthfully. It can also include telling yourself that you are okay and that you love who you are.
Practicing good self-care is necessary for your self-esteem, health, sanity, and sense of well-being. If you prioritize self-care, you will feel better about who you are.
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Learning how to love yourself and to improve your self-esteem is something that you can achieve. Neuro-linguistic programming can help you to identify the thoughts and behaviors that you have that are limiting for you. By modifying your internal map of the world, you can enjoy a more positive outlook and improved self-esteem. Premier NLP Life Coaching can help you to learn how to have a more positive view of yourself. To learn more, contact us today by filling out our contact form.